“Dear children, let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth.” 1 John 3:18
Many years ago I learned about the concept of love languages. The idea is that we all give and receive love in different ways. Some people need to hear the words, while others need to experience the actions. In healthy relationships, there is the ability to fully appreciate the love language of the other person. Once their love language is understood, love deepens and grows in mutual appreciation and understanding.
Sometimes our default position is to utter words of love and there are many times when that is very appropriate. However, a steady diet of words unaccompanied by practical deeds can quickly become empty and meaningless. When words are not backed up with the action we easily question if there is any truth at all in the words. Perhaps you have known the barrenness of those types of words?
Our responsibility in every relationship is to exhibit more than words. Actions reveal that love is genuine and sincere. They follow the example of Jesus who demonstrated ultimate love to each of us in dying on a cross. Not only did Jesus tell us that he loved us, but he showed it with nail-pierced hands and feet. His wide stretched arms speak love, loudly and clearly. They challenge each of us to become skilled at the language of love.
With our spouses, children, grandchildren, and friends let’s learn to practice more than words!